Last week social and traditional media were abuzz based on a rather unusual cover photo of a beautiful mother with a breastfeeding preschooler standing, latched onto her breast with the caption “Are you Mom Enough?”.
Insinuating there are 2 sides. Moms who do THIS. And Moms who DON’T. And if you DON’T then you must not be Mom Enough.
Not Good Enough. Not Committed Enough. Not Smart Enough. Not Available Enough. Don’t Love your child Enough. You’re not Supermom Enough.
Ugh. It’s just such an invisible and unattainable goal, why would a mom even try?
This irked us momstown moms. Not just the unusual breastfeeding shot, because really, this is not even about extended breastfeeding. It’s about judgement. And defining what is “Enough”.
In an era of supposed open-minded support, why are moms are still stuck on this carousel of judgement and comparison!? It’s simply a ridiculous notion that moms all need to be a combination of 1950s housewife + Attachment Parenting Hipster + Early Educator + Liberated career woman in order to be “Enough” of a “supermom”.
One momstown member wrote a smart explanation on the momstown message board of why the picture and ugly online dialogue infuriated her.
“How blessed are we to live in the Western world where this is one of the most epic battles our society of women engages in? Rights? Got ‘em (mostly) Careers? Got ‘em (if we want) Equality - we're getting pretty close. Breastfeeding? Everyone freak out and scream at each other!!! It's exhausting and annoying that people have to go insane over something that is simply a choice we are all free to make, however we choose to make it.”
That’s just it. We’re so darn lucky in North American to have the blessing of options that moms get stuck in cruel debate about personal CHOICE. About topics that really only matter to the mother and her family. Why do we all stick our noses into other people’s business and make declarations about what’s right and wrong for HER? Forget about "her", life is about our family and our choices.
All moms know their children best. And makes us ALL more than enough.
I am a Mom. So are you. We try hard and we love our kids with overwhelming energy which makes us SUPER moms. Enough said.